Four Ways to Get Your Nagging Wife Stop

​Communication is one of the

things that can make or break

a marriage – depending on how

efficient your form of

communication is. This is why

women get a bad reputation for

nagging, which is not the most

efficient way to get things

done…yet continue to do it

anyway.
So why does your wife nag?

1. She’s not your maid

If your typical routine is to

come home from work, sit on

the couch and not move until

it’s time for bed, there’s your

problem. That’s why she keeps

asking you to do the same

things: Clothes go IN the

laundry hamper, not right next

to it. Peels and wrappers go

into the garbage. That mess you

made from making lunch? You

can spare the two minutes it

takes to clean it up.

You might think it’s not a big

deal – She can pick up a pair of

socks from the family room

floor, right? But so can you!

Yes, picking up a pair of socks

is easy but if you say that about

every little thing, it adds up.

What to do

Take a few seconds and look

around before leaving a room;

The less of a mess you leave,

the happier your wife will be.

2. She isn’t sure you’re listening

If your wife asks you to take

out the garbage, how long does

it usually take you to do it? If

you’re a person who doesn’t

respond right away, or

someone who forgets the favor

while staring at the TV, that’s

why she has to rephrase and

repeat the question…constantly.

Maybe she wasn’t heard or no

one listened to her when she

was younger. Maybe she is

trying to get things done and

could use some help. That’s

why talking, with actual words

and not grunts, is important in

your relationship. Talk about it

and understand where each of

you is coming from.

What to do

It’s not hard to stop whatever

you’re doing and look her in

the eyes and acknowledge the

question. Promise to really talk

to her. When she’s talking,

listen. There’s nothing better

for building a better

relationship than being heard.

3. She can’t do it all alone

Contrary to popular belief, not

all women want to do

everything a man does. And if

you’ve done her a favor in the

past (like putting holes in the

walls for pictures) chances are

she’ll wait for you to do those

tasks.

The “honey-do” list seems like

something to laugh at, but if

you actually make progress on

them, she will know that you

will get to it and won’t need to

nag. Whether it’s putting

together a set of shelves so she

can get things organized or

touching up the paint, take a

project and set aside the time to

get it finished.

What to do

If this task will take two days to

complete, take a day off of

work and work on it or

schedule out your weekend

plans accordingly. There’s

nothing worse than starting a

project and then waiting

another six months to get it

finished or to work on it again.

If it takes 15 minutes, start at

half-time and get back before

any of the action starts.

Be courteous and give your

wife a timeline of your schedule

and when you think her project

will be finished. Put a finish

date on the family calendar.

That way, you’re both on the

same page and there won’t be

a need to nag.

4. You don’t spend enough time

with her

When you get married, any and

all best friends should take the

back seat. Your wife should be

your best friend. She should be

the one you go to for advice. If

you have a problem between

the two of you, you discuss it

with her, not your friends.

Your wife might nag about you

going out so much because in

reality, you are going out too

much. How often do you take

her on a date or sit down and

have an in-depth conversation

with her?

You might think, “I need guy

time.” But what about “wife

time”? If it’s so important to get

out of the house, take her with

you. Include her on what’s

going on in your life and the

decisions you’re making. It all

affects her future too.

What to do

Set aside time to be with her,

not only intimately but for

daily conversations and date

nights.

Ultimately, if she nags, it means

she still cares and wants to see

a change. Even though nagging

isn’t the best way to

communicate, it is a way she is

trying to reach you. Talk about

your relationship, the quirks

and pet peeves, and make

changes to improve your

relationship instead of just

being annoyed. 

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